Not everyone who experiences same-sex attraction is able to see their sexual orientation change. But for some, like Brady Cone, this does happen. Unfortunately, many in the LGBTQ community despise people like him more than anyone else.
What does matter is that I once was, and no longer am gay. Not only I, but thousands like me! It does not mean that a switch is flipped, and all the same-sex attraction goes away. It does not even mean that you can “pray away the gay.” It means that over the course of our lifetime, God sanctifies us, shows us the idols we are serving, and through ongoing sanctification, He untwists what our sinful hearts have twisted.
Throughout sharing my story of wrestling with sexuality—and how God’s love and grace is sufficient for every one of us—the back of the room was filled with hundreds of protestors holding up signs. Throughout the question and answer session, LGBT members of the audience and the protestors tried to cause disturbances and ridicule me. One person went as far as saying they wished I had pulled the trigger on the gun back when I had almost committed suicide as a hurting 13 year old boy.
But there was one student that night, whose heart was open to the message of God’s love and grace. His name was Levi, and he was one of the protestors in the back of the room. As he stood there holding his sign with his fellow LGBT comrades, something was stirring in his heart. He stood there, watching his community respond to me with such vicious hatred—all while I responded to them with tenderness and grace.
As he stood there, a thought was racing through his head. He kept thinking, “I’m standing on the wrong side of hate.”
Levi slipped out as soon as the event was over and went back to his dorm room. That same week he reached out to his old youth pastor from high school, and a couple of Christian friends. When I first heard from him months later, he had left the gay community, and said goodbye to his gay identity. He was thriving in his relationship with the Lord. In that moment, in that room, God had shined the light of His truth in Levi’s heart, as He had done in mine over a decade ago. Levi discovered that his sexuality was not central to his humanity, nor could it provide him with any type of wholeness. Only Christ could do that.